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How I’m Breaking the “Fear of Failure” Curse

My fear of failure coupled with perfectionism and risk-aversion has crippled my potential. As a ...

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I am Tomaseena but most people just call me “Tia.” I enjoy sharing my favorite tips and content that highlights my journey with everything, including relationships and motherhood, and all the adventures in between. And I am the creator of The Honest Mother Hood blog and upcoming YouTube channel.

The Honest Mother Hood is a community - a village, support system, a hood - built for women and mothers who want to discuss motherhood in all its forms with honesty and with confidence.

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I know you're tired mama. Homeschooling is kicking

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="I know you're tired mama. Homeschooling is kicking everyone's ass. The kids are more demanding (and dare I say, more annoying) than ever. You have meals planned in your head, but somehow they aren't making it to the stove. Laundry seems to be piling exponentially faster than it did pre-COVID. Your friends are complaining about not being able to reach you, because by the time you've settled down and are able to talk to anyone, you're too drained to call back. But I'm here to tell you that it's okay to take a break from it ALL - yes, even the kids. It is legit a form of #selfpreservation. Here's why: I was listening to @carlaphall's podcast and @kristenanniebell was her featured guest. Kristen talked about how important it was for her to reclaim #selfcare time in her day. Even if its just for 10 minutes - as long as you do it alone and uninterrupted. Think about all the roles you carry - mom, wife, homemaker, sibling, daughter, employee, entrepreneur and friend (sometimes all at once). She spoke about the importance of getting away from it all, letting the mind and body relax, and allowing time to RECHARGE. Empty batteries are useless, and if we are emotionally, psychologically and physically depleted, we are useless for our families. We must reclaim self care in order to self preserve. Tonight, at 7pm, I'll be chatting live with @kimissodope, a Licensed Family and Marriage Therapist, about balancing life, responsibility and self-preservation through self-care. I'm hoping to get suggestions on ways that women and mamas can advocate for themselves through self care. Go to my stories to save the alarm so that you can remember to join us. In the comments, tell me what you do to exercise self-care. For me, I escape into reality tv. It's mindless and allows my brain to kind of relax - turn off, even. : : : #momlifekeepingitreal #momtruths #thatmomlifetho #momanddad #momminainteasy #honestmommin #honestmomconfessions #parentproblems #mommyhood #motherhoodunfiltered #motherhooduncensored #lifeasmom #igmom #igmoms #igmommies #igmommy #igersmom #momsofig #igmother #motherhoodthroughig #mothersofig #momblogger #mombloggers #momblogs #mombloggersofig #momblogging">

I know you're tired mama. Homeschooling is kicking everyone's ass. The kids are more demanding (and dare I say, more annoying) than ever. You have meals planned in your head, but somehow they aren't making it to the stove. Laundry seems to be piling exponentially faster than it did pre-COVID. Your friends are complaining about not being able to reach you, because by the time you've settled down and are able to talk to anyone, you're too drained to call back. But I'm here to tell you that it's okay to take a break from it ALL - yes, even the kids. It is legit a form of #selfpreservation. Here's why:

I was listening to @carlaphall's podcast and @kristenanniebell was her featured guest. Kristen talked about how important it was for her to reclaim #selfcare time in her day. Even if its just for 10 minutes - as long as you do it alone and uninterrupted. Think about all the roles you carry - mom, wife, homemaker, sibling, daughter, employee, entrepreneur and friend (sometimes all at once). She spoke about the importance of getting away from it all, letting the mind and body relax, and allowing time to RECHARGE. Empty batteries are useless, and if we are emotionally, psychologically and physically depleted, we are useless for our families. We must reclaim self care in order to self preserve.

Tonight, at 7pm, I'll be chatting live with @kimissodope, a Licensed Family and Marriage Therapist, about balancing life, responsibility and self-preservation through self-care. I'm hoping to get suggestions on ways that women and mamas can advocate for themselves through self care. Go to my stories to save the alarm so that you can remember to join us.

In the comments, tell me what you do to exercise self-care. For me, I escape into reality tv. It's mindless and allows my brain to kind of relax - turn off, even.
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<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="🎃 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐑𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞 🎃⁣ ⁣ I totally get not wanting to do traditional costumes. I mean, I desperately tried last year to make my then 21 month old look like Wednesday Addams for Halloween. ⁣ ⁣ But there’s something kinda sacred about the Pumpkin costume. 𝘈 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘮𝘱𝘬𝘪𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦! That’s why we did it the first year, and got it over with. Swipe ⬅️ for evidence. We got the pics for the memories. And now she can be whatever untraditional characters I can dream up until she starts deciding what she wants to be. ⁣ ⁣ Meanwhile, I’m trying to figure out how I can be a character from @ratchednetflix. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐮𝐲𝐬 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐇𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫? 𝐀𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐬? : : : #honestlymothering #thisismotherhood #candidmotherhood #mymotherhood #lifeasamama #motherhoodunited #raisingtinyhumans #messymotherhood #littlepiecesofchildhood #mymamahood #thehonestmotherhood #thingsiwanttoremember #motherhoodunplugged #humansofjoy #toddlerhood #magicofmotherhood #motherhoodintheraw #momlifebelike #BLKcreatives #BlackInfluencers #BlackMotherhood #BlackMothers #AmplifyMelanatedVoices #AmplifyBlackVoices #BlackMomBlogger #microinfluencer #ctcls101920 #10smt1920">

🎃 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐑𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐏𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞 🎃⁣
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I totally get not wanting to do traditional costumes. I mean, I desperately tried last year to make my then 21 month old look like Wednesday Addams for Halloween. ⁣
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But there’s something kinda sacred about the Pumpkin costume. 𝘈 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘰𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘮𝘱𝘬𝘪𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦! That’s why we did it the first year, and got it over with. Swipe ⬅️ for evidence. We got the pics for the memories. And now she can be whatever untraditional characters I can dream up until she starts deciding what she wants to be. ⁣
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Meanwhile, I’m trying to figure out how I can be a character from @ratchednetflix. ⁣
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𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐮𝐲𝐬 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐇𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫? 𝐀𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐬?

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It’s finally cooling down here in Atlanta. #Fabl

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It’s finally cooling down here in Atlanta. #FableticsPartner I don’t wanna jinx us, so that’s all I’m gonna say about it. But cool weather means no ones judging me for rocking black and other fall colors, like this super breathable, mesh, rust-colored outfit from @Fabletics.

❗️And today is International #LeggingDay❗️

Use the link in my bio to get any two bottoms for $24 when you become a VIP. PLUS 50% off everything and free shipping with your first order. #myfabletics #moveinfabletics #internationalleggingday #ctcls102020

𝐅𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐌𝐞𝐦

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="𝐅𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐌𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 ...⁣ ⁣ Almost everyday, we’re taking new toys to the babysitter’s or leaving with new toys from there. Today it’s this school bus. For awhile, it was a Minnie Mouse stuffy. The other day it was a Mr. Potato Head, and next week, it will be something else. Files under #childhoodmemories, because it’s one of those silly parts of being a mommy that I absolutely looked forward to. ⁣ ⁣ 𝐃𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐤𝐢𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞/𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞? : : : #honestlymothering #thisismotherhood #candidmotherhood #mymotherhood #lifeasamama #motherhoodunited #raisingtinyhumans #messymotherhood #littlepiecesofchildhood #mymamahood #thehonestmotherhood #thingsiwanttoremember #motherhoodunplugged #humansofjoy #toddlerhood #magicofmotherhood #motherhoodintheraw #momlifebelike #BLKcreatives #BlackInfluencers #BlackMotherhood #BlackMothers #AmplifyMelanatedVoices #AmplifyBlackVoices #BlackMomBlogger #microinfluencers #ctcls101620 #10frismt16">

𝐅𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐌𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 ...⁣
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Almost everyday, we’re taking new toys to the babysitter’s or leaving with new toys from there. Today it’s this school bus. For awhile, it was a Minnie Mouse stuffy. The other day it was a Mr. Potato Head, and next week, it will be something else. Files under #childhoodmemories, because it’s one of those silly parts of being a mommy that I absolutely looked forward to. ⁣
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𝐃𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐤𝐢𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞/𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞?
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#honestlymothering #thisismotherhood #candidmotherhood #mymotherhood #lifeasamama #motherhoodunited #raisingtinyhumans #messymotherhood #littlepiecesofchildhood #mymamahood #thehonestmotherhood #thingsiwanttoremember #motherhoodunplugged #humansofjoy #toddlerhood #magicofmotherhood #motherhoodintheraw #momlifebelike #BLKcreatives #BlackInfluencers #BlackMotherhood #BlackMothers #AmplifyMelanatedVoices #AmplifyBlackVoices #BlackMomBlogger #microinfluencers #ctcls101620 #10frismt16

𝐄𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐯𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐫 ... 𝐚

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="𝐄𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐯𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐫 ... 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 Yesterday, I had the pleasure of standing in line with my mom to cast our early votes. She probably doesn’t care but this is the first time we stood in line together to vote. Ever! So it was special for me. But early voting (in Georgia) has its own challenges ... small but still good to know before doing so. I’m sharing tips for early voting in Georgia down below with you. If you’re not in GA, check your states voting websites’ for tips. 🗣 SHARE with your friends and family. ✅ 1. You can vote at any early polling location in your county. With early voting, you’re not limited to your designated polling location. ✅ 2. If you’ve received an absentee ballot, there will be a few extra minutes spent cancelling your absentee ballot. But remember, if you’re cancelling your ballot, others might be as well, so be patient. ✅ 3. Destroy your absentee ballot. If you requested an absentee ballot, but then decide to do early voting, make sure to destroy the absentee ballot. Your personal information is on there. ✅ 4. Check your county’s website to see if it lists wait times for the polling locations. Some do, but not all. ✅ 5. Early voting is available only on weekdays. Check your polling locations to see the times. Most are 7am-7pm but it varies. ✅ 6. There will be one day of Saturday voting, on October 24. : : : #georgiavoter #earlyvoting #vote2020 #votehimout #voteblue2020 #votebluenomatterwho #voteforchange #votevotevote #motherhoodunfiltered #mommyhood #momhacks #motherhoodmoments #motherhoodrising #momfriends #motherly #theeverymom #motherhoodslens #blackvotesmatter #blackvotersmatter #blackbloggersclub #blackblogger #blackbloggersunite #ctcls101520 #10mamas15">

𝐄𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲 𝐯𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐫 ... 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of standing in line with my mom to cast our early votes. She probably doesn’t care but this is the first time we stood in line together to vote. Ever! So it was special for me. But early voting (in Georgia) has its own challenges ... small but still good to know before doing so. I’m sharing tips for early voting in Georgia down below with you. If you’re not in GA, check your states voting websites’ for tips.

🗣 SHARE with your friends and family.

✅ 1. You can vote at any early polling location in your county. With early voting, you’re not limited to your designated polling location.

✅ 2. If you’ve received an absentee ballot, there will be a few extra minutes spent cancelling your absentee ballot. But remember, if you’re cancelling your ballot, others might be as well, so be patient.

✅ 3. Destroy your absentee ballot. If you requested an absentee ballot, but then decide to do early voting, make sure to destroy the absentee ballot. Your personal information is on there.

✅ 4. Check your county’s website to see if it lists wait times for the polling locations. Some do, but not all.

✅ 5. Early voting is available only on weekdays. Check your polling locations to see the times. Most are 7am-7pm but it varies.

✅ 6. There will be one day of Saturday voting, on October 24.
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𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐲 𝐥𝐨𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 ...⁣
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Growing up I knew that I wanted to be a mom. I didn’t care about being a wife, I just knew I wanted to be a mom.⁣
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Career-wise, I’ve floated from wanting to be a teacher to ER doc to music mogul and actually ended up as graphic designer (bleh). And though successful and really good at it, I’m still ... searching for what I’m supposed to be. ⁣
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I just know that cannot go for another 30 years at any job just to have a job. The thought of it is depressing AF. ⁣
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I keep coming back to writing. But I have a real imposter syndrome type issue with trying to be a writer (or even blogger) since I haven’t been formally trained. ⁣
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𝐈 𝐠𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐈 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐚 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠? Was it just because you were good at whatever it is?
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