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How I’m Breaking the “Fear of Failure” Curse

My fear of failure coupled with perfectionism and risk-aversion has crippled my potential. As a ...

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July 11, 2020 November 21, 2020 failure fear of failure

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I am Tomaseena but most people just call me “Tia.” I enjoy sharing my favorite tips and content that highlights my journey with everything, including relationships and motherhood, and all the adventures in between. And I am the creator of The Honest Mother Hood blog and upcoming YouTube channel.

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I took this picture of Skylar after “straighteni

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="I took this picture of Skylar after “straightening” her hair to trim it. It’s the first and likely last time I’ll do it for at least a couple more years. She loved it. She said she felt like a princess 😍 probably because her hair has never been this loose. This … free. Kinda like how I’ve felt since my serious SERIOUS break from IG. Anxiety, moodiness, short-temper, sleeplessness and … imposter syndrome. My approach simply wasn’t healthy. Ask my therapist. Even now I’m still stuck in the shackles of imposter syndrome. And I don’t know how to get out of it - or if I ever will. In addition, I prided myself on doing what I wanted to do, yet I wasn’t. And I know what I prefer to spend my time doing. And it’s not this. So I unfollowed ALOT of people who made me feel not good enough - through no fault of their own. People I barely knew or even cared abt, and who probably felt the same about me TBH. And it’s whatever. Going forward, I want to go back to my healthier approach to IG. And refocus on what I like doing. Which I haven’t figured out fully yet either. 😂 #motherhoodunfiltered #honestmom #honestmomconfessions #mentalhealthmatters #messymotherhood #mentalhealthadvocate #motherhoodunhinged #hairgoals #toddlerhairideas #bighairdontcare #toddlerhair #curlybabies #melanatedmamas">

I took this picture of Skylar after “straightening” her hair to trim it. It’s the first and likely last time I’ll do it for at least a couple more years. She loved it. She said she felt like a princess 😍 probably because her hair has never been this loose. This … free.

Kinda like how I’ve felt since my serious SERIOUS break from IG. Anxiety, moodiness, short-temper, sleeplessness and … imposter syndrome. My approach simply wasn’t healthy. Ask my therapist. Even now I’m still stuck in the shackles of imposter syndrome. And I don’t know how to get out of it - or if I ever will.

In addition, I prided myself on doing what I wanted to do, yet I wasn’t. And I know what I prefer to spend my time doing. And it’s not this.

So I unfollowed ALOT of people who made me feel not good enough - through no fault of their own. People I barely knew or even cared abt, and who probably felt the same about me TBH.

And it’s whatever. Going forward, I want to go back to my healthier approach to IG. And refocus on what I like doing. Which I haven’t figured out fully yet either. 😂

#motherhoodunfiltered #honestmom #honestmomconfessions #mentalhealthmatters #messymotherhood #mentalhealthadvocate #motherhoodunhinged #hairgoals #toddlerhairideas #bighairdontcare #toddlerhair #curlybabies #melanatedmamas

Would you believe me if I said I’ve never had a

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="Would you believe me if I said I’ve never had a pool party for my birthday? It’s because March is always a funny time of year where the water hasn’t warmed enough, at least unless I reserved an indoor pool. But who has the funds for that? But I’m at least happy I hadn’t put my winter clothes and longs sleeves away just yet. This pink sweatsuit with tapered pants 😱🥰 from @fabletics was a life saver today as I walked outside to unexpectedly cool temps that only seemed to get cooler as the day continued. ⁣⁣ Use the link in my bio to get any two bottoms for $24 when you become a VIP. PLUS 50% off everything and free shipping with your first order. #myfabletics #moveinfabletics #fableticspartner">

Would you believe me if I said I’ve never had a pool party for my birthday? It’s because March is always a funny time of year where the water hasn’t warmed enough, at least unless I reserved an indoor pool. But who has the funds for that? But I’m at least happy I hadn’t put my winter clothes and longs sleeves away just yet. This pink sweatsuit with tapered pants 😱🥰 from @fabletics was a life saver today as I walked outside to unexpectedly cool temps that only seemed to get cooler as the day continued.
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Use the link in my bio to get any two bottoms for $24 when you become a VIP. PLUS 50% off everything and free shipping with your first order. #myfabletics #moveinfabletics #fableticspartner

You can’t tell by this selfish ass picture but I

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="You can’t tell by this selfish ass picture but I spent my birthday 🥳 🎂 🍰 🎁 today with my loved ones. And honestly, it’s all I wanted. Gifts are amazing - no, really, they’re one of my two love languages. I’m very much an “oh you care abt me? Show me ... with presents” type of person. But this year, I wanted a cheap evening out eating mostly edible food, surrounded by unpretentious folk who just love being in each other’s presence. And that’s what I got. Year 3️⃣6️⃣, do me right, baby, please! Photo: @_cellycel : : : #birthphotography #birthdayshoot #birthdaygirl #mamabirthday #birthdaymama #birthdaymom #birthdaymoments #dirtythirties #happybirthdaytoyou #happybirthdaytomeee">

You can’t tell by this selfish ass picture but I spent my birthday 🥳 🎂 🍰 🎁 today with my loved ones. And honestly, it’s all I wanted. Gifts are amazing - no, really, they’re one of my two love languages. I’m very much an “oh you care abt me? Show me ... with presents” type of person. But this year, I wanted a cheap evening out eating mostly edible food, surrounded by unpretentious folk who just love being in each other’s presence. And that’s what I got.

Year 3️⃣6️⃣, do me right, baby, please!

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The pose queen strikes again. : : : #childlikewon

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="The pose queen strikes again. : : : #childlikewonder #letthembekids #letthembelittleforever #girlmommy #girlmama #melaninmommy #raisingtinyhumans #theeverymom #lifewithlittles #toddlerhood #messymotherhood #wildandbravelittles #toddlersofinsta #toddlerswithstyle #momlifeunfiltered #momblogger #instamom #simplymotherhood #mamasofinstagram #toddlermomlife #blackbloggersclub #blackbloggersunited #momsofig #atlantamoms #atlantabloggers #blackhistoryeveryday #toddlermodel #toddlermodels #gracefwls">

The pose queen strikes again.

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#childlikewonder #letthembekids #letthembelittleforever #girlmommy #girlmama #melaninmommy #raisingtinyhumans #theeverymom #lifewithlittles #toddlerhood #messymotherhood #wildandbravelittles #toddlersofinsta #toddlerswithstyle #momlifeunfiltered #momblogger #instamom #simplymotherhood #mamasofinstagram #toddlermomlife #blackbloggersclub #blackbloggersunited #momsofig #atlantamoms #atlantabloggers #blackhistoryeveryday #toddlermodel #toddlermodels #gracefwls

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="It’s the hair for me! Healthier than a mug 💁🏾‍♀️ And this week, its BLUE!!! : : : #carselfies #bluehairdontcare #bluehaircolor #blackinfluencers #blackmotherhood #amplifymelanatedvoices #curlhair #curlyhairroutine #blkcreatives #blackmama #blackmamasmatter #blackgirlmagic #healthyhaircare #healthyhairfirst #healthyhairtips #hairpaintwax #asiam #momselfcare #momselfie #atlmoms #atlantamoms #callingblueseal #happyymums">

It’s the hair for me! Healthier than a mug 💁🏾‍♀️ And this week, its BLUE!!!
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#carselfies #bluehairdontcare #bluehaircolor #blackinfluencers #blackmotherhood #amplifymelanatedvoices #curlhair #curlyhairroutine #blkcreatives #blackmama #blackmamasmatter #blackgirlmagic #healthyhaircare #healthyhairfirst #healthyhairtips #hairpaintwax #asiam #momselfcare #momselfie #atlmoms #atlantamoms #callingblueseal #happyymums

I cry at the milestones. I remember sitting in th

<img src="http://thehonestmotherhood.co/wp-content/plugins/instagram-feed/img/placeholder.png" alt="I cry at the milestones. I remember sitting in the middle of the food court crying because it was the first time I realized Skylar could feed herself. I cried when she took her first steps. I yelped in excitement during a work meeting at the sight of it - and scared everyone on the call 😂 - but I cried after the call. And while she’s no calligrapher, I cried at watching my little baby learn to trace. I don’t know what it is about moms and those milestones. On one hand I’m so happy for her development, but on the other she’s becoming less of a baby. Yes we’re far away from her being super independent. And prayerfully, even further away from those hateful teenage years, but still, as she reaches developmental milestones, a small part of me mourns the baby who won’t need us for everything ... sooner than later. : : : #melaninbabies #melaninbaby #curlybaby #toddlerhairstyle #letthembelittleforever #girlmommy #girlmama #melaninmommy #raisingtinyhumans #amplifymelanatedvoices #blackhistoryeveryday #theeverymom #lifewithlittles #toddlerhood #wildandbravelittles #toddlersofinsta #momblogger #instamom #simplymotherhood #mamasofinstagram #toddlermomlife #blackbloggersclub #blackbloggersunited #momsofig #blackhistoryeveryday #consistency2021 #consistencychallenge #developmentalmilestones">

I cry at the milestones.

I remember sitting in the middle of the food court crying because it was the first time I realized Skylar could feed herself.

I cried when she took her first steps. I yelped in excitement during a work meeting at the sight of it - and scared everyone on the call 😂 - but I cried after the call.

And while she’s no calligrapher, I cried at watching my little baby learn to trace.

I don’t know what it is about moms and those milestones. On one hand I’m so happy for her development, but on the other she’s becoming less of a baby. Yes we’re far away from her being super independent. And prayerfully, even further away from those hateful teenage years, but still, as she reaches developmental milestones, a small part of me mourns the baby who won’t need us for everything ... sooner than later.
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#melaninbabies #melaninbaby #curlybaby #toddlerhairstyle #letthembelittleforever #girlmommy #girlmama #melaninmommy #raisingtinyhumans #amplifymelanatedvoices #blackhistoryeveryday #theeverymom #lifewithlittles #toddlerhood #wildandbravelittles #toddlersofinsta #momblogger #instamom #simplymotherhood #mamasofinstagram #toddlermomlife #blackbloggersclub #blackbloggersunited #momsofig #blackhistoryeveryday #consistency2021 #consistencychallenge #developmentalmilestones

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